Posted this on FB without a picture but felt like I should share it on IG too - a shorter version - I've hit the word limit lol (for the first time), with a picture of myself in #Korea, exploring alone.
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I never like to judge people, because I feel like I will never fully understand the circumstances and reasons for their actions if I'm not them. Also, I don't like it as it makes me feel like I'm making myself out to be better than them, because I'm really not. Everyone has the right to their own opinions, values, preferences, actions. People can do what they want to do, it's none of my business. But when they hurt others, it's not #judgement we need, I feel, but action (reevaluating friendship, being firm with, advising people trying to involve you in things you don't think are right), or focusing on oneself (karma is a bitch, just try your best to be your best self).
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It's always easier said than done, I know, but at the end of the day what matters the most to me is #honesty. Everyone makes mistakes, and if you want to shield the full truth of your life to the world, that's fine (it's called privacy 😂), but you shouldn't lie to yourself and your loved ones (I suppose there are always difficult situations or exceptions, but you get what I mean right). Because if you can't be honest with one another, how do you trust? I'm still learning, there are some things I find hard to be honest about because I'm "too nice" to say them. Or, sometimes maybe I feel like they don't necessarily need to be said because they're not important and it doesn't contribute value. Or maybe, I just don't know. But anyway, I guess there's just really a time and place for everything and it's hard sometimes - but, we should at least try.
I want to be disappointed, I want to be #jaded and I want to judge. But I'm going to resist, as for every bad thing I'm sure there is good too. And even then, it's all relative and subjective. But I'm going to stop indulging in emotions or states of mind which are not productive and self-destructive, all because of things that happen. The world is the way it is, things happen and we just gotta deal with them in the best way we can... or take action.
It's always been difficult for me to say 'No', because I've had for so long this complex of wanting, needing to be accepted. Which I guess had made me feel inclined to say 'Yes' to things to please others, even if it's not really what I wanted or went against the things I supposedly stood for. But then, I don't know if it's because of this or what caused this (chicken and egg thing I guess), but I also never really know what I wanted (possibly also why I could say 'Yes' quite easily). But as time passed, I started to realise there are some things I just can't, or rather, shouldn't say 'Yes' to. And these days, I try to carefully consider what I say 'Yes' to. Because a 'Yes' shows that I'm willing to give up something - my time, energy, money (or a part of my soul) for you/it. That means something, or at least, it should. I'm trying to remember that it's OK to say 'No' sometimes and not always feel bad about it. Even when it's something we think we want, but must say 'No' to. End of the day, just gotta be honest about the things that matter right? Because the #truth hurts, but false hopes and deception hurt even more. 🙂
Thank you @dtimageproject for this picture, taken back in January this year! 🙏
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As #SunYanZi put it, in one of my favourite songs from almost 20 years ago (yes it was released in 2000, tells you my age doesn't it):
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用心酸微笑去原谅了也翻越了
有昨天还是好的，但明天是自己的
开始懂了，快乐是选择
I used to love this #song but never really thought about what it meant. Now, I believe I understand, but still have trouble doing it. Maybe in another 20 years, I guess......? 😂
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At least I'm making some headway with the internal value conflict though in the journey to creating my own #happiness - it seems two of my #values don't coexist very well with one another, but I can't let go of either anytime soon, so I've decided I'll just have to learn how to live with both, for now. Real life is a blur of shades and lines anyway, isn't it? 🙂
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